When someone is dealing with depression, the one thing they want more than anything else is to NOT be depressed. They want to feel better, happy, normal, like they used to be. They can’t understand why they are unable to just snap out of it and stop feeling bad. Circumstances or symptoms are too overwhelming and they feel helpless and without hope. This results in one of the main facets of depression, which is self-loathing or self-hate. Your inner voice asks:
“What’s wrong with me?”
“How did I get this way?”
“Why can’t I just be happy?”
“I’m a loser.”
“I’m a bad person.”
“I can’t do anything right”
“I’ll never get better.”
“I hate myself.”
These types of thoughts are common and even understandable as depression causes people to feel as though they have fallen in a deep, dark place that they can’t bring themselves out of. The inner voice is a saboteur that is often too loud to ignore. Working on blocking negative thoughts is a good strategy to deal with this, but they key is to try to avoid these thoughts before they take hold. In order to do that, you must practice loving yourself.
In order to love yourself, you must first accept the simple truth that each and every being was created for a reason, has a purpose, and is unconditionally valued simply because it is . . . it exists . . . it is alive. Some refer to this belief as rational autonomy. To sum it up, YOU MATTER. Even if sometimes you think you don’t, you actually DO. You many never know why you are here or what your purpose is, but it is an undisputable fact that you were created for a reason. You are an important part of this world.
After accepting that you are an intrinsically valuable human being, you have to find ways to like yourself and then love yourself. You have focus on the good in your life and not the bad. Think of your good qualities instead of your faults, and focus on your good deeds instead of your bad.
You must become your own cheerleader and make a habit of patting yourself on the back. Talk to yourself out loud or in your head. It may sound a bit goofy, but every day look in the mirror and smile at yourself. Yes, smile at yourself. Then you can move on to complimenting yourself, taking pride in yourself, liking yourself and finally loving yourself.
Persistence and daily practice are of the utmost importance for reaching this point. You cannot rely on anyone else to sing your praises, nor can you afford to skip one single day of singing your own. Even if you don’t feel like it or deep down don’t really believe it at the time, fake it. Tell yourself that you matter and eventually you will come to see the truth and believe it. You can and will love yourself unconditionally (the good, the bad and the ugly that make you who you are). Before long you will be singing along with Meghan Trainor via meghan trainor me – Google Search Click on the link and pay special attention to the lyrics in the chorus. We want you to feel that good about yourself.