“You are not me. You don’t know how I feel. You’ll never know what I am going through. You just don’t understand me. No one understands me. It is different with me. YOU DON’T GET IT! None of your advice will work for me. It’s just not the same for me. I am different. No one can help me. NO ONE GETS ME!”
Do any of these comments sound familiar?
Is this the way you feel?
Do you think no one gets you?
Do you think no one understands?
Well guess what . . .
YOU ARE WRONG!
You are really not as different as you think you are.
Don’t take offense and stop reading. Hear us out. We know that you are unique. That is 100% true. No one has the exact same perceptions, experiences, personality, genetics, etc. (even identical twins). Every person is different and special in their own way. However, every person is also the same.
We are all human. If we get cut, we bleed. We all have the same basic needs and experience the same human emotions. Think of snowflakes. Every individual flake is different, but they are really all the same. They are all snowflakes and they all fall from the sky. Just as snowflakes are snowflakes, humans are humans. We may have variances, but we are all basically wired the same. Even when that wiring is crossed somehow that makes you a bit different from the majority, there are still plenty of other people out there with those same type of crossed wires.
Look up any subject on the internet and you will find a multitude of conversations about it. Even the rarest of diseases has a community of people online who are all dealing with the very same thing. Our point is that when you are feeling like you are “the only one” going through something, or think that “no one understands you,” you are wrong. You are flat-out wrong. Someone out there is going through the same thing. Someone out there does understand you. There are people out there who do “get it” and their knowledge can help you. Therefore, our depression hack is for you to know that you are not alone. The only way to see this, however, is to reach out to others.
You have to communicate in order to benefit from others who are just as “different” as you think you are. We guarantee that once you start talking about how you feel, you will be amazed at how many other people will admit that they feel the same way. All it takes is one comment. You don’t have to tell your deepest-darkest secrets in order to start a conversation. You also don’t have to feel afraid to bring up a tough topic if you know how many other people are talking about it. Sharing is contagious. It can also be life-saving. Once you learn that you are truly not alone in your struggles, you will feel a spark of hope. You will realize that you can get help and feel better. You will realize that you can heal. Just like the young man in the link below, you will be able to see daylight again.
We absolutely LOVE the fact that mental health is coming “out of the closet” and being talked about. News stories like the link below are the kinds of communication that can prove our point that you are not alone. These stories also make it easier for you to start talking. Please check it out.
You can also check out one of our previous posts that contains five more links shining a light on mental health, including our favorite clip from Imagine Dragons lead singer Dan Reynolds. Please check it out.
Please know that you do not have to suffer in silence. It’s ok to talk about how you are feeling. You may even find that someone close to you has been feeling the same way. A dear friend’s niece told her that she was depressed and learned that five other people in her own family were being treated for depression. You have to talk to heal. Talk to a friend, a family member, a coworker or a professional. Please be sure that who you are opening up to is a person or a reputable online site that you can trust. You will be glad you did.
“You are not me.” I am just like you.
“You don’t know how I feel.” I have felt the same way.
“You’ll never know what I am going through.” I have been there too.
“You just don’t understand me.” I do. I understand.
“No one understands me.” We do. We understand.
“It is different with me.” I thought it was different, but it’s not.
“YOU DON’T GET IT!” I get it. I truly get it.
“None of your advice will work for me.” We are human. We can heal.
“It’s just not the same for me.” It is the same for me. I am just like you.
“I am different.” I am different too, but we are the same.
“No one can help me.” Yes. Someone can help. I got help and you can too.
“NO ONE GETS ME!” I get you. I understand. You are not alone.