Depression Hack: Embrace Your Shadow

You have probably heard at some point in your life that it is important to keep balance in all things such as a balanced diet, a balanced budget, a well-rounded (balanced) education, and a stable (balanced) family life to name a few. This is good advice because balance in our lives creates peace in our lives.

Our bodies are great at self-regulating to keep balance/homeostasis in order to function properly. We breathe, digest, fight off disease, maintain the right body temperature etc., all without even thinking about it. Unfortunately, our minds are not so talented. In fact, our psyche’s are intrinsically unbalanced. Have you ever seen the animation of the angel on one shoulder and the devil on the other whispering into each ear?  That is essentially what we are dealing with on a day to day basis.

We all (without exception) have a good side and a bad side. This makes it very difficult to maintain balance sometimes. Not only do we wage a war within to do the right thing, but we also fight against our own side as we beat ourselves up over lost battles. This sort of self-sabotage is what we’d like to focus on as it pertains to hacking depression.  Continue reading

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“Depression Hack: Enjoy the Little Things in Life”

You have all heard this idiom, but have you ever really sat down and thought about its’ meaning? It basically means BE PRESENT in your life. EXPERIENCE each and every moment. Don’t take ANYTHING for granted. It is a fabulous depression hack, because if you enjoy the little things in life instead of just the good times, the milestones and victories, there is much more to be happy about. If you consider each day, each moment, each and every breath to be a gift, you will have an appreciation for so much more in life, including hard times. So . . . how do you put this into practice? Two answers: TIME and FOCUS. Continue reading

Venting: Cyclists/Pedestrians vs. Motorists

The weather is getting nicer in most parts of the country, so more and more people are out and about. Walkers, runners, and bicyclists are all out crossing, sharing and using the roads alongside motorists.  This is often a recipe for disaster since pedestrians and cyclists are no match for two-ton pickup trucks driving at 45mph (or at any speed for that matter). However, if people would understand the law and drive responsibly, many of the dangers could be avoided. 

We get it . . . it is often infuriating when you are in a hurry and the family with the two strollers, three toddlers and two dogs are taking their good old time crossing the street in front of you. We also get how irritating it can be to be stuck behind a cyclist riding 20 mph or less down any stretch of road, for any amount of time. However, you have to understand that they are not doing anything wrong. Pedestrians and cyclists have just as many rights to those roads and you do. Continue reading

Advice: Don’t Be an Enabler

Don’t confuse enabling someone with loving/supporting someone.

Enabling is a very misunderstood, dangerous behavior that most often happens between two people who deeply care for each other, such as a husband/wife, mother/daughter, father/son, or two best friends. The enabler seldom realizes that they are indeed enabling their loved one to continue negative or self-destructive behavior. They think they are helping or supporting their loved one, when they are actually harming them. Enabling is commonly associated with feeding or supporting addiction, but it encompasses all kinds of negative behaviors.

Let’s use life-long friends Joe and Tom for an example. Joe is always getting in trouble. He cheats on his wife, breaks the law on occasion, pretends to be someone he is not, and seems to have no moral code. Despite this, all through his life, Tom has always stood up for Joe. When Joe behaves badly and gets in trouble, or someone points out his bad behavior, all he has to do is go to Tom, who will tell him everything is ok. Tom has a reasonable mind and knows right from wrong. He knows that the things Joe does are really bad, but he wants to make his friend feel better. He comforts Joe, minimizes the consequences of Joe’s negative actions, and even lies for Joe. Continue reading

Depression; Ending the Stigma

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Every now and then something relevant to our site comes along that pulls at our heart strings, intrigues us, or makes us jump for joy. CBS Sunday morning news featured a story on actress Glen Close (remember Fatal Attraction?) and her fight to end the stigma surrounding mental illness. She is just one of many creating a movement to bring mental illness both mild and severe out of the darkness of shame and misunderstanding and into the light. Please check out the following two links.

https://hubpages.com/health/Pathways-to-Mental-Health

https://bringchange2mind.org

Advice: Don’t Lie

This advice sounds like it comes from Captain Obvious. Of course, you shouldn’t lie. Everyone knows that lying is wrong. Lies are by definition told with an intent to deceive others. Even preschoolers know that it is not good to be a liar. Why then, are we offering such obvious advice? The answer to that question may surprise you . . .

Many of you do not know what it is like NOT to lie. A large percentage of you lie each and every day, sometimes without even thinking about it. All those lies, no matter how big or how small, have a negative effect on your subconscious mind. They create a kind of clutter or cognitive dissonance in your brain.

“In the field of psychology, cognitive dissonance

is the mental discomfort experienced by a person

who simultaneously holds two or more

contradictory beliefs, ideas, or values.” (Wikipedia)

We want you to rid yourself of all that clutter, so you can come to know what it feels like to be a truthful, authentic person. It is an extremely freeing way to live. A clear mind will change your life for the better in so many ways. You will do more good, and in turn, receive more good things in life. You will feel more relaxed, open, and unburdened. Adopting a life of truth will also help you reduce depression, anxiety and stress. Continue reading

Venting on Online Anonymity

People complain that with social media we have no privacy anymore. Everything about our lives is photographed, videotaped, documented and posted for the world to see. However, the other side of the social media coin, anonymity, provides us with just as much to vent about, if not more.

Being anonymous gives power to those who would otherwise not have the courage to speak out. While that can be a good thing for those who are oppressed, it is a dangerous tool for those who are up to no good. This is because anonymity allows individuals to say things without consequence. Continue reading