Category Archives: Advice

Advice; We Love This . . .

Every now and then we come across something relevant to our site that we’d like to share. Check out the link below. Almost every one of the items on the list is something we have mentioned in our previous posts. 

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via Removing These 31 Things From Your Life Will Make You Happier and More Successful

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Advice: Ignore Internet Trolls

As all public forums do, we have gotten some comments on Witandwisdom4u.com from Internet Trolls. While we are happy to receive intelligent comments that challenge us, intrigue or inspire us, the comments from Trolls never warrant a response. 

Wikipedia defines Internet Trolls as follows:  In Internet slang, a troll (/ˈtroʊl//ˈtrɒl/) is a person who sows discord on the Internet by starting quarrels or upsetting people, by posting inflammatory,[1] extraneous, or off-topic messages in an online community (such as a newsgroup, forum, chat room, or blog) with the intent of provoking readers into an emotional response[2] or of otherwise disrupting normal, on-topic discussion,[3] often for the troll’s amusement.” (Wikipedia)

WordPress is wonderful about automatically blocking most of the types of comments Trolls try to post. As most of you know, they also give writers the option to approve or disapprove of any comments that will appear on their site. If, however, you happen to read one of the blubbering’s of an Internet Troll aimed at upsetting you, you must not allow yourself to react. No matter how vicious the written attack is, or how low the Troll has gone to try to get to you, it is important that you do not respond. Continue reading

Advice: Live for the Moment

Look back and think about a time when you felt 100% present. Maybe you were exerting yourself physically playing a sport, leisurely hiking in nature, excitedly reeling in a big catch or terrified as you watched the conclusion of a thriller. Can you recall how you felt? Can you feel the same sensation as you remember? You probably can, because in those moments you were using all of your senses and experiencing real emotion. You were living life.

Many of us these days can only recall a handful of times when we were really living life, because modern technology has taken away our ability to experience the moment. This is really a tragedy of our times. It’s a shame that so many people today don’t experience life as it was experienced in the past; taking everything in with our eyes and ears instead of our camera phones; connecting with our friends on a personal level instead of through a computer monitor; and creating real memories in our hearts and minds instead of on our Instagram or Facebook page. Continue reading

Advice: The Key to Happiness

Treasure for the Taking

There is a bit of a disconnect when it comes to the things most people say, and the things most people do. For instance, most people say that history repeats itself, yet we continue to make the same mistakes generation after generation. In a similar way, the majority of people will say that with age comes wisdom, and therefore, we should listen to the advice of our elders. Nevertheless, when it comes to actually following that advice, the majority of people fall short. This is despite the fact that time and again, age-old advice is proven to be true.

Most of us like to think of ourselves as unique, but truthfully, we are all human beings with the same needs, wants and desires. No matter what era we are born in, we are still human and the fundamentals of human nature remain constant. We all basically want to have that magic thing called, “happiness.” Well, we have a treasure trove of information available to us about the key to happiness from the successes and failures of those gone before us. We just have to listen to it . . . but for some reason, we rebel against it. We come up with excuses and rationalize that things have changed, and the advice of our elders doesn’t hold true in this day and age. It’s time we wake up and smell the coffee and listen to those whom have “been there, done that.” Continue reading

Advice: Beware of the Self-Fulfilling Prophecy

We recently wrote a post entitled “Reality is Subjective,” via Depression Hack: Your Reality Is What You Make Of It | Wit and Wisdom 4 U which proposed the notion that it is possible to mold the kind of reality you want to exist in. When doing so, we suggested that you focus on the positive, choose to treat others the way you would like them to treat you; and choose to be a good person, thus creating a better reality for yourself. As an adjunct to that post, we’d like to talk about the Self-fulfilling Prophecy, and how it can both help and hinder your efforts to create your new and improved reality. Continue reading

Las Vegas Shooting Commentary

There is much to be said about the horrific tragedy in Las Vegas. Our hearts go out to everyone touched by this event. Our site is dedicated to advice, self-help, and positivity, so we’d like to offer a few “words of wisdom” along those lines if possible.

Tragedy is often a precursor to depression, and understandably so. We feel helpless and hopeless, and the sadness seems to run much too deep to pull out of. We want you to know that it is ok to feel that way. It is completely normal, especially after a tragedy or a loss. Go ahead and let yourself feel the pain, cry the tears and express the anguish. It is important to experience those feelings and let them run their course. You are allowed to “break the rules” and turn off your phone, lie in bed all day, eat ice cream out of the carton, etc.  However, just as important as letting depression in to your mind, is understanding that you have to make a plan to let it out. Continue reading

Advice Just for Teens; How to Fit In

We received an email at witandwisdom4u@gmail.com from a teenage reader feeling depressed about having to relocated and attend a new high school. She asked for advice about how to fit in. Although we responded privately, we thought we would share some of our tips for other teens to benefit from.

First of all, we were happy to know that the teenage reader was asking others and searching online for advice (and even more thrilled that she sent us an inquiry). We are here to help. The fact that the reader was looking for answers to her problem showed that she was taking action to help herself. Good for her! That was our first piece of advice. Continue reading