Category Archives: Advice

Advice: How to Deal with Anger

Many people’s depression is manifested in the form of anger and irritability. Anger can have serious adverse effects if it is not addressed properly. The worst part about this facet of depression is that often you don’t know why you are angry and irritable. You seem to be peeved for no reason. You lash out at others, which makes you feel guilty and causes you to be isolated, anxious and more depressed. You may destroy the ties you have with friends and family, which are vital to maintain when dealing with depression. This can also increase your symptoms even more. So, how do you put a stop to this vicious cycle?

Learning anger management techniques is the key to end the cycle. Anger management is based on the same principles we have been discussing in our other posts.

You can control your thoughts.

Your thoughts affect your feelings.

Therefore, you can control your anger.

In order to control your feelings of anger, you must first accept them, even if you don’t know why you are angry. Then you have to choose to react positively to those very real, very strong feelings. Most people cannot do anything positive when they are in the heat of anger. Therefore, you have to be armed with the knowledge of how to deal with it. One way to deal with anger and irritability is to learn and remember to use the STOP, LOOK, LISTEN technique. Continue reading

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Advice; Quitting Facebook/Instagram

Every now and then we come across something relevant to our site that we feel compelled to share. This is the second link on this topic that we have posted. We love what this article has to say  (I also LOVE Reader’s Digest. I have been reading it for decades). Please check it out: via Why I Quit Facebook and Instagram | Reader’s Digest

If you didn’t click on the links within the article, go back and check them out. There are some really great ones. It’s crazy that, “Facebook’s own researchers publicly questioned if the site could potentially be a threat to the public’s mental health…” See our favorite quotes from the article below.

“I don’t care what other people are up to. You do You”

“Ignorance really is bliss.”

“When you leave it (social media) The people who matter will still be there.”

“Most invites (on social media) weren’t sincere requests for my attendance, but a way to boost numbers on event pages…”

“I feel free to live in the moment.”

DEPRESSION: #METOO . . . #TIMES UP!

You’d have to be living under a rock to be unaware of the #metoo, #timesup movement that is happening right now, but there is another “movement” that is also gaining steam. It’s the de-stigmatization of depression. After many years, the subject of depression is finally becoming “acceptable” and no longer taboo.

Recently, more and more high-profile celebrities, musicians, professional athletes and even morning newscasters are “coming out” about their struggles with depression. They are publicizing the fact that they were (or still are) depressed and find no shame in seeking help on their own or from a professional. They are ridding the public of antiquated stereotypes, and proving that depression is a real disease that is NOT all in your head. They are showing the world that there is no reason NOT to admit that you are depressed, and no reason NOT to seek help. Depression is not a character flaw or a weakness. It does not mean you are crazy or broken, and it is way, way, way more common than you know. In fact, according to the World Health Organization, 350 million people suffer from depression. That is 6.9% of the entire population of Earth.

This movement is necessary because some old attitudes about depression still exist, especially among parents who don’t get help for their kids. One out of every 8 teens suffers from depression, but almost half of them never get help. This leads to a statistic of 5,000 teen suicides per year. This is not a small problem, and not one that will be hidden or ignored anymore! Seek help. Talk about it. Change is here! Join the movement and give it momentum.

The best example of this new attitude about depression that I have personally witnessed, is a rock musician speaking to a crowd of more than 18,000 die-hard fans in the middle of his concert about depression . . . Continue reading

Advice We Love

Advice we love . . .

Whenever we come across something that really resonates with us and features the same kind of sentiment that we are writing about, we like to share it. Check out the link below as you set out make your New Year’s Resolutions.

via 37 Things to Let Go of Right Now

We love this list and think they saved the best tip for last . . .

#38 Let go of anyone and anything that doesn’t make you happy. Similar advice to this can be found in our post Run Your Own Race via Advice on How to Deal With Bad People Getting Good Stuff | Wit and Wisdom 4 U

Honorable mention goes to the following items on the list. . . Continue reading

Advice: Ignore Internet Trolls

As all public forums do, we have gotten some comments on Witandwisdom4u.com from Internet Trolls. While we are happy to receive intelligent comments that challenge us, intrigue or inspire us, the comments from Trolls never warrant a response. 

Wikipedia defines Internet Trolls as follows:  In Internet slang, a troll (/ˈtroʊl//ˈtrɒl/) is a person who sows discord on the Internet by starting quarrels or upsetting people, by posting inflammatory,[1] extraneous, or off-topic messages in an online community (such as a newsgroup, forum, chat room, or blog) with the intent of provoking readers into an emotional response[2] or of otherwise disrupting normal, on-topic discussion,[3] often for the troll’s amusement.” (Wikipedia)

WordPress is wonderful about automatically blocking most of the types of comments Trolls try to post. As most of you know, they also give writers the option to approve or disapprove of any comments that will appear on their site. If, however, you happen to read one of the blubbering’s of an Internet Troll aimed at upsetting you, you must not allow yourself to react. No matter how vicious the written attack is, or how low the Troll has gone to try to get to you, it is important that you do not respond. Continue reading

Advice: Live for the Moment

Look back and think about a time when you felt 100% present. Maybe you were exerting yourself physically playing a sport, leisurely hiking in nature, excitedly reeling in a big catch or terrified as you watched the conclusion of a thriller. Can you recall how you felt? Can you feel the same sensation as you remember? You probably can, because in those moments you were using all of your senses and experiencing real emotion. You were living life.

Many of us these days can only recall a handful of times when we were really living life, because modern technology has taken away our ability to experience the moment. This is really a tragedy of our times. It’s a shame that so many people today don’t experience life as it was experienced in the past; taking everything in with our eyes and ears instead of our camera phones; connecting with our friends on a personal level instead of through a computer monitor; and creating real memories in our hearts and minds instead of on our Instagram or Facebook page. Continue reading