It’s probably safe to assume that everyone wants to feel special at some point in their lifetime. It’s good to feel special. It’s warm and fuzzy. We probably all remember a time when we felt special, whether it be for an achievement, a birthday, or that one day in elementary school that we got to be the line leader . . . and if you ever got to be on television or got your picture in the newspaper, you felt really, really special. Unfortunately, in today’s media getting that feeling is no longer possible.
It used to be that you only saw celebrities or pro-athletes on television, and you had to do something heroic (or criminal) to be in the news. Now, with reality TV, internet news, YouTube, blogs, and social media, you do not have to do anything special to be in the media. Everyone is in the media.
It’s no longer a big deal to be “in the public eye” because there are eyes everywhere. No one cares if you have your picture in the paper, appear on television or have a news or magazine article written about you. Now it is just commonplace, because everything is news. Gone are the days of being able to have our fifteen minutes of fame. Social media has all but eliminated the limelight and our ability to feel really, really special. Continue reading
Guess what? All people are judgmental and there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s normal to judge and be judged.
Research shows that within the first SEVEN SECONDS of meeting someone, all people will make judgments about who they think that person is and if they feel they can trust them. It’s not critical, shallow, unaccepting, or biased . . . it’s just human nature.
The first impression may change when the people get to know each other, but even then, the opinions one person has about another are just that . . . opinions. Judgmental has really become a go-to word to put down anyone who has an opinion that differs from your own.
Just face it . . . everyone is different, and they are going to think whatever way they want. You can’t worry about what other people think. Not everyone is going to like you or agree with what you say or do. Just accept that. Don’t label someone as judgmental just because they have their own opinions.
If you feel someone is being judgmental toward you, most likely you have an insecurity about yourself. Fix it within yourself. Make a change if you feel you need to, but don’t worry about what other people think. You can’t control anyone except yourself. Run your own race. You control You.
How long has it been since the Transport Security Agency has mandated that passengers take off their shoes when walking through airport security? Five years? Six? Unless you have been living under a rock, everyone should know by now that your shoes must come off. Why is it then that so many people fail to wear or bring socks to the airport?
Who are these people and why don’t they realize how unsanitary it is to walk barefoot in public places? Haven’t any of these people ever heard of foot fungus? Plantar warts? Athletes foot? Herpes? Don’t they understand how many thousands of gross, sweaty feet are stepping on the exact same two yellow footprint spots in the millimeter-wave scanning device per day?
This is disgusting. These barefoot walkers need to get a clue. WEAR SOCKS WHEN WALKING THROUGH AIRPORT SECURITY!
While we are on the subject of feet at airport security, we must also vent about the ridiculous shoes some people wear to the airport. When you KNOW that you have to take your shoes OFF, wouldn’t it be sensible to wear easy on/easy off footwear? Why then do some people wear lace-up sandals or buckle up boots that take a minimum of five minutes to get on and off of their feet? Are these people trying to hold up the security line?
This is just ridiculous. USE YOUR BRAINS PEOPLE! DRESS APPROPRIATELY FOR FLYING!
I am going to sound like my Grandfather when I vent about this, but I have to ask . . . Is nothing sacred anymore? When did all of the limits to good taste vanish?
Flipping through the major television network channels at prime time (8:00PM), I came across a sitcom depicting a teenage girl masturbating from start to finish in a high school bathroom stall. On another network, a group of pre-teens were depicted in vivid detail beating another child to death. How has it become acceptable to call such things entertainment?
It is appalling how modern media (television, movies, etc.) has taken such a downward spiral into depravity. Not only does is denigrate us as a society, but it also insults our intelligence.
I realize this a matter of opinion, and I am all for free speech, no censorship, etc. I also understand that if I don’t like it, I don’t have to watch it. What bothers me, however, is the amount of people who are watching it, accepting it as the norm, and often imitating it.
Forgive me if I sound like a snob as well as an old-timer, but frankly, I don’t care. There are some of us who still hold onto some remnant of class and self-respect, even though it’s not depicted on prime-time television.
We get many emails asking for advice about mental health, but a good 50% of the help that people are asking for has to do with interpersonal relationships. We love every comment and question we receive, and hope our personal messages and posts provide the answers. Be prepared, however, because sometimes those answers may be hard to hear.
One thing we always advise people to do is to BE AUTHENTIC. It’s ALWAYS best to be up-front and honest with yourself and others. What we often find is that many people seeking help with an interpersonal relationship problem fail to take into account their role in the problem. They fall victim to THE BLAME GAME . . .
“It’s all his fault.”
“I didn’t do anything wrong.”
“He never apologized.”
“She started it.”
“She is the one who hurt/angered/disrespected me.”
“He made me angry.”
“She baited me/strung me along/lied to me.”
In the majority of cases, it takes two to tango. There can’t be an argument without two parties. Before blaming others, take responsibility for your part in the problem. Try to see the other side of the disagreement. Try to put yourself in the other person’s shoes. No one can control your emotions. No one is at fault for YOUR behavior. You are in control. You choose how to respond to every problem. Think before you respond, take responsibility, form a response, agree to disagree, or simply walk away.
Remember, if you are looking for help with a problem, first look to yourself. Think of what you CAN and CANNOT control. Be accountable for your own actions. You may not always be as innocent as you think. We love the following quotes.
“You don’t have to attend every argument you’re invited to.”
“Say what you mean, but don’t be mean when you say it.”
“Arguing with a fool only proves that there are two.”
“Fool me once, shame on me. Fool me twice, shame on you.”
For a more in-depth look, check out the link below for a great article on the blame game.
The weather is getting nicer in most parts of the country, so more and more people are out and about. Walkers, runners, and bicyclists are all out crossing, sharing and using the roads alongside motorists. This is often a recipe for disaster since pedestrians and cyclists are no match for two-ton pickup trucks driving at 45mph (or at any speed for that matter). However, if people would understand the law and drive responsibly, many of the dangers could be avoided.
We get it . . . it is often infuriating when you are in a hurry and the family with the two strollers, three toddlers and two dogs are taking their good old time crossing the street in front of you. We also get how irritating it can be to be stuck behind a cyclist riding 20 mph or less down any stretch of road, for any amount of time. However, you have to understand that they are not doing anything wrong. Pedestrians and cyclists have just as many rights to those roads and you do. Continue reading