Category Archives: Venting

Venting on Modern Media

Seriously?

I am going to sound like my Grandfather when I vent about this, but I have to ask . . . Is nothing sacred anymore? When did all of the limits to good taste vanish?

Flipping through the major television network channels at prime time (8:00PM), I came across a sitcom depicting a teenage girl masturbating from start to finish in a high school bathroom stall. On another network, a group of pre-teens were depicted in vivid detail beating another child to death. How has it become acceptable to call such things entertainment? 

It is appalling how modern media (television, movies, etc.) has taken such a downward spiral into depravity.  Not only does is denigrate us as a society, but it also insults our intelligence.

I realize this a matter of opinion, and I am all for free speech, no censorship, etc. I also understand that if I don’t like it, I don’t have to watch it. What bothers me, however, is the amount of people who are watching it, accepting it as the norm, and often imitating it.

Forgive me if I sound like a snob as well as an old-timer, but frankly, I don’t care. There are some of us who still hold onto some remnant of class and self-respect, even though it’s not depicted on prime-time television.

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Venting on THE BLAME GAME

We get many emails asking for advice about mental health, but a good 50% of the help that people are asking for has to do with interpersonal relationships. We love every comment and question we receive, and hope our personal messages and posts provide the answers. Be prepared, however, because sometimes those answers may be hard to hear.

One thing we always advise people to do is to BE AUTHENTIC. It’s ALWAYS best to be up-front and honest with yourself and others. What we often find is that many people seeking help with an interpersonal relationship problem fail to take into account their role in the problem. They fall victim to THE BLAME GAME . . .

“It’s all his fault.”

“I didn’t do anything wrong.”

“He never apologized.”

“She started it.”

“She is the one who hurt/angered/disrespected me.”

“He made me angry.”

“She baited me/strung me along/lied to me.”

In the majority of cases, it takes two to tango. There can’t be an argument without two parties. Before blaming others, take responsibility for your part in the problem. Try to see the other side of the disagreement. Try to put yourself in the other person’s shoes. No one can control your emotions. No one is at fault for YOUR behavior. You are in control. You choose how to respond to every problem. Think before you respond, take responsibility, form a response, agree to disagree, or simply walk away.

Remember, if you are looking for help with a problem, first look to yourself. Think of what you CAN and CANNOT control. Be accountable for your own actions. You may not always be as innocent as you think. We love the following quotes.

“You don’t have to attend every argument you’re invited to.”

“Say what you mean, but don’t be mean when you say it.”

“Arguing with a fool only proves that there are two.”

“Fool me once, shame on me. Fool me twice, shame on you.”

For a more in-depth look, check out the link below for a great article on the blame game.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201509/5-reasons-we-play-the-blame-game

 

Venting: Cyclists/Pedestrians vs. Motorists

The weather is getting nicer in most parts of the country, so more and more people are out and about. Walkers, runners, and bicyclists are all out crossing, sharing and using the roads alongside motorists.  This is often a recipe for disaster since pedestrians and cyclists are no match for two-ton pickup trucks driving at 45mph (or at any speed for that matter). However, if people would understand the law and drive responsibly, many of the dangers could be avoided. 

We get it . . . it is often infuriating when you are in a hurry and the family with the two strollers, three toddlers and two dogs are taking their good old time crossing the street in front of you. We also get how irritating it can be to be stuck behind a cyclist riding 20 mph or less down any stretch of road, for any amount of time. However, you have to understand that they are not doing anything wrong. Pedestrians and cyclists have just as many rights to those roads and you do. Continue reading

Venting on Online Anonymity

People complain that with social media we have no privacy anymore. Everything about our lives is photographed, videotaped, documented and posted for the world to see. However, the other side of the social media coin, anonymity, provides us with just as much to vent about, if not more.

Being anonymous gives power to those who would otherwise not have the courage to speak out. While that can be a good thing for those who are oppressed, it is a dangerous tool for those who are up to no good. This is because anonymity allows individuals to say things without consequence. Continue reading

Venting on Air Travel

“Seriously? 7”

We all know that life is not fair and mean people suck. For those of you who have a sense of justice, it can be tough to hold your tongue when you see things that are just not right. In order to keep the peace, it is much better to just let it go. However, if you are like us, it will make you feel a LOT better if you get it off your chest and vent. This is where you can do that. Here are some examples for today.

PEOPLE SHOULD BE REQUIRED TO TAKE AND PASS A COURSE ON PROPER AIR TRAVEL BEHAVIOR BEFORE BEING ALLOWED TO BOARD A PLANE

The first lesson of the course should be a lesson in following rules.

No one is exempt from the simple rules that exist for the safety of every traveler. You MUST fasten your seat belt. I don’t want your 200-pound body landing on top of me if we hit major turbulence.

You MUST turn off your electronics, raise your seat-back, and give up your drink when the flight attendant tells you to. It’s not fair that the other 400+ passengers all have to stop playing Candy Crush, sit upright, and lose the last sips of their beverage while you continue to break the rule. You are not special. On an airplane, you are just a passenger like everyone else. Continue reading

Venting on Forgiveness

There is much to be said about forgiveness. We struggled as to what page of our self-help and positivity site the topic should occupy. Is forgiving people a depression hack? Is it good advice? Both of those pages would be appropriate, since it is important to your mental health to let go of negativity; however, after much consideration, it seems as though the topic of forgiveness fits best on our Venting page. Surprised?  Don’t be. Read on and you will understand. Continue reading

Venting on Rude Texting & Texting for Cowards

“Seriously? 6”

We all know that life is not fair and mean people suck. For those of you who have a sense of justice, it can be tough to hold your tongue when you see things that are just not right. In order to keep the peace, it is much better to just let it go. However, if you are like us, it will make you feel a LOT better if you get it off your chest and vent. This is where you can do that. Here are some examples for today.

Texting is fabulous in so many ways. However, it is used and abused by rude people and cowards everywhere. There is such a thing as text etiquette. LOOK IT UP . . . LEARN IT & FOLLOW IT!

Do not have a texting conversation while you are having an in-person conversation with someone else face to face, especially while you are visiting in their home or in a restaurant. RUDE, RUDE, RUDE! PUT THE PHONE AWAY & BE PRESENT!

Texting is not warm & fuzzy. CALL IF YOU CARE!

Texting is an easy way to be sarcastic or passive-aggressive. Don’t try to hide your nastiness behind a text. Everyone can see right through it. JUST BE NICE!

Texting is not the way to communicate when you have not talked to someone in a long time. If you truly miss someone, call them up. A call says you care. An “I miss you” text says YOU ARE NOT WORTH MY TIME.

Texting is the coward’s way out when responding to a touchy situation that catches you off guard or makes you feel vulnerable. GROW UP & FACE YOUR ISSUES!

Texting every little thing that happens, the moment it happens is not living life, it is reporting life. Once again, BE PRESENT!